Mary Poppins, The Twilight Zone, and the Epidemic of Male Suicide

What drives a man to take his own life? Not my usual topic, I know, but I’d like to take a moment to reflect on the epidemic of male suicide in the United States in my own peculiar way by seeing what films and TV shows have to say about it.

Let’s go back 50 years to a couple of pieces of popular entertainment that approach the problem of male suicide from two very different angles: Mary Poppins and the classic Twilight Zone episode “A Stop at Willoughby.”

Mary Poppins is about two children who desperately wish to spend more time with their middle-aged father. “A Stop at Willoughby” is about a middle-aged man who desperately wants to get away from his miserable life. What on earth could these two seemingly disparate things have in common with each other? Read on and it will become quite apparent.

The Big Boss

Mr. Banks has a lot of respect for his employers and hopes to one day become a partner in their business.Mary Poppins tells the story of Mr. Banks, a man who loves his job. He has a real sense of pride whenever he talks about the bank where he works. He has an overbearing boss, but Mr. Banks treats him with great respect because of his position.

Gart Williams doesn't like his job and doesn't have ambitions to move up the ladder.“A Stop at Willoughby” tells the story of Gart Williams, a 38-year-old advertising executive. He’s managed to have a successful career, but the problem is that he hates his job. His overbearing boss constantly pushes him to work harder and close more sales, but all Mr. Williams wants is for him to stop bothering him.

Already, you can see the connection and the difference. These two men are successful in their line of work, but one loves his job while the other hates it. Why do they do what they do? Mainly because of their families.

Men used to be the primary breadwinners in almost all cases for their families. Times have changed. Men used to be willing to live with a less-than-ideal job and stay with a company for decades, but the rise of job-hopping has done away with that old idea. Plus, fewer men are graduating from college than women each year. This is definitely going to have a major impact on the way families and organizations are structured in the future.

Home Life

Mr. Banks loves making his wife and children comfortable, thanks to his lucrative career.Mr. Banks loves making his wife and children comfortable, thanks to his lucrative career. He tries to remain aloof at home, and that’s just his way of dealing with the pressures of his life. Although Mrs. Banks is a fierce women’s rights activist who claims that all men are “rather stupid,” she still listens to her husband, even when she disagrees with him.

Gart Williams gets no respect from his wife, only reprimands.Mr. Williams finds no such peace at home. He has no children and his wife treats him with contempt when he tells her he’d prefer a quiet life. The woman who should be his biggest support and confidante gives him no support or respect. She just considers him to be a human ATM, allowing her to be comfortable through his misery.

Mr. Banks derives great satisfaction out of straining himself so his family doesn’t have to worry about material things. But no matter how much Mr. Williams toils and suffers, his wife is never satisfied. He just continues to get more miserable and wonders what’s the use of continuing on.

It’s not hard to find examples of people claiming that men are stupid or otherwise inferior to women. What was a joke in Mary Poppins has become serious business over the years. Men are supposed to be emotional punching bags, accepting any undeserved punishment as a fact of life, and if they ever speak up against injustice they are condemned as unmanly, wimpy, or worse.

Escaping to Another Time and Place

Mary Poppins, Bert, and the Banks children hop into a chalk drawing.Mary Poppins features a magical nanny who is able to transport people into different realities. At one point, she helps Mr. Banks’s two children jump right into a sidewalk painting, and they emerge in a cartoon world filled with sunshine, warmth, and pleasantness. It’s a welcome change from the dreary streets of London. Later, the children tell their father all about it. At first he’s not enthused to hear that they are spending their time daydreaming, but at the end of the film he, too, wishes to join them on just such an adventure.

While sleeping on the train ride home from work, Gart Williams dreams up a peaceful town in a different era.In “A Stop at Willoughby,” Mr. Williams falls asleep several times on a train heading between his home and New York City. Each time he finds himself transported to a different time and place. It’s a small town called Willoughby, and it’s in the late 19th century instead of the mid-20th century. In a welcome departure from the cold winter in a busy city, Mr. Williams finds himself transported to a beautiful summer day in an easy-going town. At first he is confused and doesn’t know what to make of this strange vision, but by the end all he wants to do is get off the train and stay in Willoughby forever.

Escapism is a big theme in both of these stories. Mr. Banks thinks fantasy lands are foolish and even dangerous, but he learns to embrace them because they make his children happy, and he wants to share in their joy. Mr. Williams tries to look for a logical explanation for his vision of another reality, but he eventually gives up and gives in to its allure. He’s convinced he’ll never be happy in real life, so he just prefers the fantasy.

I know it’s cliché, but perhaps this is why some young men choose to escape into video games and other forms of entertainment. All they hear is how terrible they are and they see the deck stacked against them in family courts, prisons, hiring, education, and just about everywhere else, so why even bother? Just stick to the fantasy. It’s safer there.

Bearing Full Responsibility

Mr. Banks faces a board of review who decide to fire him on account of his son's outburst.Mr. Banks has no one to turn to with his troubles. He is forced to succeed or fail on his own merits, and he can’t appeal to people’s pity if he ever fails in his duties. Case in point: Mary Poppins manipulates Mr. Banks into taking his children to the bank one day. However, the children wind up causing a panic at the bank. Mr. Banks can’t blame Mary Poppins or his children for the disaster. He alone is forced to bear full responsibility for it.

Gart calls his wife seeking comfort when he decides it is just too much for him to take, but he gets no relief from her.Mr. Williams, too, doesn’t have anyone to share his burden with. When a deal falls through or someone else in the agency fails to deliver on their promise, he has no one else to blame but himself.

This one is pretty clear. These men have no one else to help them or take the fall for them. They are alone in their responsibilities.

It’s not easy to bear such a heavy burden. This is why men used to receive so much respect. They are the risk-takers, the adventurers, the ones who get things done. Where much is expected, much is given. It seems that people have forgotten this. There is no conspiracy to lift men at women’s expense. There was just a need for men to rise as high as they could so they could pay for their own families’ (and, by extension, society’s) needs.

Opting Out

George Banks fixes his children's kite after he loses his job.Mr. Banks gets fired from his job one night, even though what happened wasn’t his fault at all. When it seems like all hope is gone and he has no reason to go on, he is reminded of his loving family. Their love for him brings him back from the brink. The next morning, his wife is deeply concerned because he’s gone missing. Some close friends believe he may have killed himself. But it turns out that Mr. Banks has been hard at work repairing his kids’ kite in a gesture of goodwill. He shows that what he wants more than anything is to spend time with his wife and children. And everything turns out just fine for him at the bank, as well.

In reality, Gart jumped off the moving train in search of relief from the life he did not love.At a critical moment when Mr. Williams is feeling the weight of the world on his shoulders and is teetering on the edge, he calls his wife and begs for reassurance. But she just brushes him off and abruptly ends the call. He promptly quits his job and rushes home. On the way, he has one final daydream and he finally goes outside and meets two children who instantly befriend him and welcome him to their town. However, it turns out that in reality he jumped off the train and killed himself. “Willoughby” turns out to be the name of a funeral home.

Mr. Banks found the love and support he needed in the form of his family. They will always love him, no matter what anyone else thinks of him, and that brings him back to them safe and sound. Mr. Williams unfortunately has his last tie to this world severed when his wife leaves him. He has nothing to live for, neither his job nor his family. He is virtually forced to find solace in suicide.

Nowadays, men don’t get much support from their families, churches, or other places they used to be able to turn to in times of need. I believe this is why we have seen the huge increase in the number of male suicides. It is also why we have seen the rise of the MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) movement. Some people prefer to go Galt and shun romantic relationships and institutions they see as hopelessly biased against them. Either way, men are increasingly opting out.

A Positive Path

Though George Banks seems to have lost everything, he still has his loving family to turn to.Mary Poppins focuses on preventing male suicide by giving men a reason to live. “A Stop at Willoughby” offers men the comfort that even if their lives are terrible and it seems like they’ll never improve, at least there’s something much better waiting for them in the afterlife.

Mary Poppins provides a positive path to follow. Women deserve equal rights to men, of course, but we must not raise women at the expense of men or seek to abandon all the good things that have come from stable families and strong men and fathers. “A Stop at Willoughby” shows what the future holds for us if we continue down the path we’re on. Eventually, men and women will realize that they don’t like being forced apart, and something will have to give.

If we could just learn to get along and deal with our differences rather than ostracize each other over them, I submit that would be practically perfect in every way.

This is the Deja Reviewer bidding you farewell until we meet again.

All images are the copyright of their respective owners.

Advertisements

About Robert Lockard, the Deja Reviewer

Robert Lockard has been a lover of writing since he was very young. He studied public relations in college, graduating with a Bachelor’s degree in 2006. His skills and knowledge have helped him to become a sought-after copywriter in the business world. He has written blogs, articles, and Web content on subjects such as real estate, online marketing and inventory management. His talent for making even boring topics interesting to read about has come in handy. But what he really loves to write about is movies. His favorite movies include: Fiddler on the Roof, Superman: The Movie, Star Trek II: The Wrath of Khan, Back to the Future, Beauty and the Beast, The Fugitive, The Incredibles, and The Dark Knight. Check out his website: Deja Reviewer. Robert lives in Utah with his wife and three children. He loves running, biking, reading, and watching movies with his family.
This entry was posted in Movie Matchups and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink.

5 Responses to Mary Poppins, The Twilight Zone, and the Epidemic of Male Suicide

  1. Excellent article. Both stories moved me most powerfully in my youth and neither have lost that power through the years. However, the lessons contained have remained strictly related to those individuals involved. I hadn’t placed the reality into the wider world and our current society. You have provided much sobering food for thought.

    Liked by 1 person

  2. John smith says:

    Your skill with words is remarkable. You mentioned MGTOW. I am a MGTOW and agree with your reasoning. You cannot be a MGTOW because you are married – sorry, that is the only rule of our brotherhood. There are many MGTOW movies. IMHO, the two best are Hombre starring Paul Newman and American Beauty starring Kevin Spacey. Your take on MGTOW and the themes in these film classics could be interesting. Cheers.

    Liked by 1 person

  3. Doug says:

    You have voiced a valid and sobering truth with your typical flare for truth and enlighenment. Our society is gravely threatened and I’m not sure how to right the ship. The literal castration of men in western society is frightening and omnipresent. TV and movies are driving the point home constantly that women are smarter and stronger than men. Even popular TV series like Castle promote the idea that a woman is smarter than all the men around her. Advertising is also incredibly biased against men and portray men as bungling idiots who make stupid purchases and must be rescued by women. Our young men are seemingly opting out of the whole competition just when we need them to focus and learn skills to contribute to a better society, but who can blame them when the schools have designed the curriculum to ensure their failure while boosting the success of girls?
    Anyway, good article and good analysis of the root causes for the loss of hope. We owe it to each other to provide support and encouragement so that everyone has hope and can face the future with confidence. Men and women are meant to be equal partners to support and sustain each other. When either gender elevates themselves at the expense of the other gender, we all suffer.

    Liked by 1 person

  4. Pingback: 9 Variations on the ‘Nanny Fixes a Family’ Movie Plot | Deja Reviewer

  5. Pingback: Disney’s History of Remaking Old Animated and Live-Action Films | Deja Reviewer

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s